| 1. You receive or overhear
information from person A about person B that is disparaging and you find
it funny. You may or may not laugh, but nonetheless, you are amused. |
2. The first time after you
hear the information, you see person B, you are reminded of the information
you heard. |
3. You behave differently
than you would if you had not heard the information. You avert your eyes,
stop talking, or stifle your movements. |
4. You experience guilt for
finding the disparaging information amusing, therefore you gain feelings
of guilt that are triggered each time you see person B. |
| 5. Over time, the initial
information that amused you about person B is forgotten, but the negative
emotion that is triggered by the presence of person B remains because it
is reinforced on a regular basis. |
6. Whenever person B appears,
you feel bad, but since you have forgotton the original information, you
cannot rationalize why you feel bad around person B. |
7. You rationalize that person
B must be a bad person because B makes you feel bad every time B shows up.
It annoys you and it makes you incrimentally frustrated and angry at person
B instead of person A. |
8. You begin to seek more
negative information about person B, perhaps taking things person B says,
out of context in order to rationalize and justify your false, negative
feelings toward person B. |